According to the Buddha, there are three causes of suffering and three cures to suffering. Everyone in life experiences pain, but sufferings different. It is how we experience pain. Pain X Reaction = Suffering.
The three cause of suffering are referred to the 3 Poisons:
Examples: buying stuff you don't need to fill a void; hanging on to a relationship that is spiritually unhealthy.
Examples: talking negatively about someone else; saying hurtful things to yourself and others; war.
Example: not being aware of what is actually happening; looking the other way; rationalizing and other defenses such as projection (blaming others) and intellectualizing (reasoning).
The 3 Cures are:
Examples: letting go of what is not to be; living within your means; helping others.
Examples: sharing positive and caring thoughts to others regardless of your aversion to them; not acting out in anger; jealousy.
Examples: Being in the present moment without judgment; lowering defenses and feeling emotions (feeling them in your body); education (reading this website).
What are your thoughts?