The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.
The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction not a destination.
When I look at the world I'm pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic.
The very essence of the creative is its novelty, and hence we have no standard by which to judge it.
In a person who is open to experience each stimulus is freely relayed through the nervous system, without being distorted by any process of defensiveness.
What I am is good enough if I would only be it openly.
There’s a light that shines in me because of you;
Now, I am your light.
There’s a strength that blankets me because of you;
Now, I am your strength.
There is a warmth that brings me comfort because of you;
Now, I am your warmth.
Although I am no longer in your presence,
I will live in your heart and I will love you forever more.
~C. G. Cleveland
“If you truly loved yourself, you could never hurt another.” – Buddha
For more information on how to be more compassionate to yourself and others google
Metta Meditation and you will be on your way!
Be Like water. ~Bruce Lee
I am currently listening (audible) to the book The Mindful Athlete by George Mumford. I recommend this for anyone, especially training in any sport or when exercising. (The link is to the right of this post)
The following quotes are from this book.
Be the water. Water responds rather than reacts. It flows. It is powerful yet it yields to the lay of the land. water actually gets its force through yielding.
Be the center in the hurricane around you.
The high waves and commotion are on the outside. Deep underneath the surface is the calmness.
Haba na haba hujaza kibaba
This is a Swahili proverb that means little by little the pot gets filled.
I use this to define they way that I approach learning and improving. I works for my education and for my physical training. It helps me from causing personal stress by not looking
for all the answers and instant results.
And it's fun to say.
This women is making history competing against men and we are fortunate to be a part of it. The effects of this on the future of women and they we all see ourselves is changing forever. And it's about time. Thank you Jessie Graff and to all female ANW
According to buddha's teaching, the three poisons are greed, hatred and delusion. These three poisons are the cause of human suffering.
Greed: grasping, attachment, the sense of mine or my way.
Hatred: aversion toward yourself, others an things that are different or not as you want.
Delusion: being unaware of the present, not knowing what is real and what is ego.
How can we release this suffering?
Practice of mindfulness, meaning paying attention to your physical and mental state. Do not try to avoid your suffering or go to the extreme of acting out in fear and anger, take the middle road. Recognize your suffering and be with it. Practice self-compassion and compassion towards others.
Daily mindfulness practice even changes the way that your brain is wired which reduces our suffering! For more info on this:
If a focus on the outcome and the extrinsic aspects of an activity are conducive to anxiety and depression, then the objective quality of my work, whether washing dishes or writing grant proposals, will likely be lowered, given what we know about the adverse effects of negative emotion on performance. So seeking the extrinsic outcome makes the failure to achieve that outcome more likely. A focus on the process and intrinsic qualities of an activity reduces the likelihood of anxiety and depression (thus eliminating their negative impact on performance), increases the pleasure of joy during the process, and thus increases the likelihood of achieving the extrinsic outcome. I have to let go of the desired outcome in order to acquire it. What a paradoxical and strange way to live.
Borkovec, T. D. (2002) Life in the future versus life in the present. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 9, 76–80.
I spoke with a young woman today, she is married, two kids and a home based business. She is in the process of trying to get healthy by exercising. In front of me and a few others, she confessed to being a smoker. The reactions from the others was in judgment and righting, meaning that they were reacting with shock and explaining to her how bad smoking is for her health.
Think about what your coping method. What is it about your life that you don't like and what do you do to cope? For example, your life could be too stressful, your in a bad marriage or you are coping with a loss that seems too overwhelming. Some cope by drinking, eating, smoking, lashing out, and behavioral addictions like gambling or internet addictions.
We all have our physically and/or psychologically unhealthy coping methods with issues that we feel we cannot change. When someone confesses their coping method, react to them as if it was you confessing yours. Show kindness, compassion and understanding rather than judgment. Just because it is not your drug of choice does not mean that the pain isn't real. People who smoke or drink to much or whatever, know what is wrong with it. Do you think that this young women has never heard before how bad smoking is for her health?
Actively listen to what she has to say, wish her love and kindness and tell her to never give up. You are in my thoughts and prayers.